While their 84-year-old father recovered at a rehabilitation facility after landing in the hospital with symptoms of a mini-stroke, the Jones siblings took the opportunity to do some cleaning at his house.<\/p>\n
Opening the fridge, they were shocked to find layers of mold, hardened food and multiple jars of the same item in varying states of decomposition. They knew solo living had become challenging for their dad, but they didn\u2019t realize the extent of the decline.<\/p>\n
\u201cThe two biggest reasons for geriatric decline are depression and dementia,\u201d says Amy Fuchs, elder care consultant <\/a>and licensed clinical social worker in Saddle River, New Jersey. Depression can set in when older people feel isolated and lonely, and often may be grieving the recent death of a friend<\/a>.<\/p>\n \u201cTheir friends are dying around them, and they\u2019re also fully aware they can\u2019t do what they used to do,\u201d Fuchs says. Early dementia<\/a> may be subtle and tricky to spot if you don\u2019t live nearby and see your parents regularly. It might look like bouts of confusion, as the Jones siblings thought.<\/p>\n Often, it takes a medical crisis to spearhead conversations about new needs. But you\u2019ll likely notice signs indicating your parents aren\u2019t as independent<\/a> as they once were. Elders who want to remain in their home<\/a> may not admit they need help for fear of having to live in an assisted living situation<\/a>. But letting things go too far can precipitate a crisis situation.<\/p>\n Here are seven common signs to watch for:<\/p>\n Fuchs says bill paying is one of the first tasks aging parents lose track of, and their adult children may not realize bills aren\u2019t being paid. Letting unpaid bills pile up can be a sign of dementia setting in, but can also be a sign of disorganization and life getting in the way. It\u2019s important to determine what\u2019s going on.<\/p>\n Missed medications can be easy to miss, but Fuchs says it\u2019s another common sign she looks for, right behind bill-paying. Take a look at your parent\u2019s pill box to see if any doses have been skipped. \u201cThat\u2019s a sign they\u2019re forgetting to take their meds,\u201d she says. Missing doses or taking too many at one time can be dangerous.<\/p>\n You may notice grime and clutter at once because regular house tasks and tidying up gets harder as people lose mobility and vision. Your parents may not be able to see the dirt. Additionally, \u201cif they can\u2019t bend down anymore, they just leave things that fall, so things pile up,\u201d Fuchs says. Elders who grew up in the Depression often don\u2019t want to spend money to hire a housecleaner, and may not want you to spend your money either. Nevertheless, a cluttered house is a tripping hazard.<\/p>\n You may notice spoiled food in the refrigerator, as the Jones siblings did, or you might realize the fridge lacks fresh foods<\/a> such as fruits, vegetables and meats, says Chris Bowker, executive manager of the home care division of AgingCare<\/a>. AgingCare is a Naples, Florida based organization that provides information for caregivers. If your parents have begun subsisting on boxed and canned food, it can be a sign that taking care of themselves is getting harder, he says. Also, watch for unexplained signs of weight loss.<\/p>\n Personal hygiene becomes a lower priority for a variety of reasons:<\/p>\n Some older people may not want to bathe for fear of falling. They also commonly have problems with undiagnosed urinary tract infections (UTI), which can sometimes be smelled. \u201cBetween not bathing or UTI issues, usually there\u2019s a distinct odor of urine from incontinence issues that drives the realization seniors need help,\u201d Bowker says.<\/p>\n If you see a bruise on your mother\u2019s arm or leg, it could mean she\u2019s fallen and isn\u2019t telling you. \u201cSeniors tend to bruise more easily, so the signs show up more,\u201d Fuchs says. She recommends checking your parent\u2019s arms and legs if possible. Experts also recommend watching for elders holding onto walls or furniture as they walk through the house. This can be sign they\u2019re unsteady on their feet and would benefit from a cane or walker.<\/p>\n As we age, our reaction time slows<\/a>, and turning your head while driving to monitor blind spots gets harder. Dementia can also be the culprit behind fender benders or sideswipes in a parking lot. If you spot scrapes or dents on the exterior of your parent\u2019s car, it may be time for a conversation about driving<\/a>.<\/p>\n When aging parents want to stay in their own home<\/a> and worry that their grown kids don\u2019t want the same for them, they may not initiate conversations about waning independence skills. But extra help from a family member, volunteer or a paid caregiver can extend independence and aging at home with less risk.<\/p>\n Older adults might simply need help with meals, personal care, transportation or light housecleaning. Have a kind, but candid, discussion without controlling the conversation, recommends AgingCare\u2019s editor-in-chief, Ashley Huntsberry-Lett. Find out which tasks feel more difficult for your parent days and ask how you can help.<\/p>\n While older adults are still capable of independence \u2014 they\u2019re alert, oriented and able to make decisions \u2014 it\u2019s important to let them make those decisions, even if you don\u2019t agree with them, Fuchs says. Choose what\u2019s not negotiable. For example, it might be OK to live with some mess but it\u2019s not acceptable to neglect the bills every month.<\/p>\n To learn about resources in your parents\u2019 community, start with Eldercare Locater<\/a>, a public service of the U.S. Administration on Aging. The nonprofit Family Caregiver Alliance<\/a> also helps families locate local services with a state-by-state navigator<\/a>. AgingCare provides a wealth of information for caregivers, helping them find answers and share information as well as connecting them to community-specific resources.<\/p>\n Do You Need a Geriatric Care Manager?<\/a><\/p>\n Answering Yes to These Questions? Consider Home Care<\/a><\/p>\n Common Signs That Your Loved One Needs a Safer Home<\/a><\/p>\n \u00a9 Twin Cities Public Television \u2013 2016. All rights reserved.<\/a><\/p>\nPay Attention to the Signs<\/h3>\n
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